I’ve been using online dating sites for 9 months and I have viewed both good and bad profiles. From my experiences I have developed a list of do’s and don’ts when creating an online dating profile.Do create a witty and creative username; highlight your interests or hobbies. Members will notice your username and may be turned on or off by it.
Don’t use your real name. It’s easy to search someone using Google and find a plethora of information. Don’t over sexualize your username. HugeWangWilson (actual username) is not what’s hot.
Do post current pictures of yourself. If you own a cell phone, camera, or webcam, there is no excuse for why you can’t post any pictures. Post close up pictures of your face, full body pictures (clothed, of course), and pictures of you enjoying your hobbies and passions. If you have pets, involve them in your photo op because who doesn’t love furry little creatures.
Don’t take pictures using your dirty bathroom mirror. Grab a paper towel and Windex if you must. Don’t post a picture of you and five of your friends. No one wants to play Where’s Waldo. Don’t post pictures specifically of your abs (especially in front of a dirty mirror). “You’re so vain…” NEVER EVER post pictures of your reproductive organs (I’m so PC) because it’s TACKY. You would be surprised by the number of people that actually do.
Do complete all of the fields in the profile. People may custom their searches and you could be overlooked because you left something blank.
Don’t lie about your appearance, background, lifestyle, or anything for that matter. Once you dig that hole, you have to keep digging.
Do share your passions and interests. If you enjoy coaching a youth football team, share that in your profile. The reader may share similar interests with you and it will provide an opportunity for you all to connect. And no one wants to date anyone who no hobbies. That’s just boring.
Don’t be afraid to show your nerdy/geeky side. It is what makes you, you.
Don’t come off as being cocky or a douchebag. You will attract just the same...Unless you’re into that.
Do articulate specific qualities that you are looking for in your match.
Don’t mention how important trust is to you because your ex cheated. You might as well wear a shirt that reads “Yes, I’m single and very bitter.”
Do use spell check, correct grammar, punctuation, and actual WORDS. Who wants to read a sentence written like this “I’m definately looking 4 mrs. Write.”
Don’t be afraid to ask a friend to look over your profile. They can offer your constructive feedback or ideas of what to include.
If you follow those basic rules, you are on the way to a great profile. If you don’t, well, good luck.
-Michelle
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