The Megabus-Where I do My Best Thinking

I’ve been single (and ready to mingle) for 6 months after ending a 3.5 year relationship. The relationship was over before it began, so the decision to start dating again wasn’t a difficult one. I work at a university, so meeting men at or through work can be problematic. I can’t date students (unless I want to lose my job) and many of the professionals are fairly older and unfortunately, unattractive. Apparently it’s not cool to meet people in bars anymore and in social events/outings, people are usually more engaged with their friends and not looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t get hit on that often in everyday life (surprising, I know!). As a result, I decided to try online dating. In February I joined the free online dating website okcupid and subscribed to match.

After experiencing traumatic and dramatic events in my life, I’ve learned to find humor in everything. Online dating has proven to be very entertaining and I often question if I am on an episode of “Punk’D” and Ashton Kutcher is lurking around the corner filming this foolishness called my life. I am rather open about some aspects of my life and I enjoy sharing my online dating experiences with my coworkers/friends. We laugh (and I sometimes cry) about how stupid, naïve, and self-absorbed men can be (I’m not a man hater. I promise).

While on the Megabus in route to DC for the 4^th of July weekend, I had the brilliant idea to start blogging about my experiences in online dating. Through this blog I hope to demystify the world of online dating. I’m a 25 year old black, middle class woman with two degrees, and a full time job. We all have our baggage but I would like to believe that for the most part I am sane and normal though those who know me well may disagree. I am just like YOU and if I can use online dating sites, there is no reason why you can’t.

I will share do’s and don’ts of creating and maintaining an online dating site profile and how to create and respond to messages. I will also post both good and bad examples of profiles that I have viewed and messages that I have received. You would be surprised what people with write when left alone with a computer and given access to the internet. Most importantly, I will give details of dates I have had with men that I meet on the online dating sites.

Enjoy.

-Michelle